A recently "Dear Abby" column took on the issue of potluck dinners. A guest questioned if it was OK for a bride to ask guest to bring a dish and pitch in and do dishes.

What was particularly interesting to me was the reader response. Several readers wrote in mentioning that in many cultures and religions, such as the Mexicans and Quakers, consider it a honor to be asked to help out, and certainly are willing to help the guests.

In fact, most readers considered it a great way to have a relaxed and inclusive wedding. As times get tighter and food costs rise, we may even see a trend of potluck weddings.  I think even guests who don't have a lot of money can participate, even if they bring a less expensive dish or perhaps the soda.

I do, though, think brides should keep finances in mind. If guests are bringing the food to your wedding, perhaps you should spread the word that their participation is you wedding gift, presents are not expected. That may relieve some of the pressure for guests who may think they have to bring food and a gift and feel stretched a little thin.

Any thoughts on potluck weddings?