As I'm getting ready to send out invitations, a piece of me wishes I had cut the guest list a little more. Another part of me wishes I had just rented a bigger place because it's not worth the hassle.

On thing I have noticed, is that the old rules of etiquette do not seem to apply any longer. Growing up, my mother always told me, if the invitation is not addressed to you, you're not invited. Hence, if a wedding invitation arrived addressed to "Mr. and Mrs.," then us kids didn't go. If an inivitation was addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. and family," then it was a free-for-all.

As I have previously mentioned, I cut children and "and guest" from the inivitation list before sending out my save the dates. As such, I've had people casually mention bringing their children, wonder aloud who they should bring as their date or ask if I intend to invite children.

All in all, it's an uncomfortable situation. And I can't help but wonder: Am I the only one who has ever heard of this rule?

No, I'm not. A close friend agreed with me that how the invitation is addressed says it all. Being right isn't much comfort though, when you don't know how to tell people they can't bring their children.

Would you try to fit the extra people or would you say something? Post a comment and give me some much needed advice!