My friend Cheri agreed to be in my wedding today. I'm thrilled!

I met Cheri about six years ago when I moved to Sunapee. I was working for a local paper and Cheri came on two months after I did in advertising. You know those people you just click with? That's Cheri.

I wanted her as a bridemaid from the getgo, but I wasn't sure if the financial burden would be too much.

It's important to keep cost in mind when you're recruiting bridesmaids. Sometimes the honor can be more of a burden. I tried to leave an opening to allow the women I asked to exit gracefully.

Try setting up a list of what you're going to expect and need from your bridemaids. Once you have it clear in your own mind what you need/want, tell your friends, adding that you would love for them to be in the wedding but understand if they don't feel they can live up to the commitment. That way they're clear on what you expect and you're less likely to be disappointed by bridesmaids who suddenly find they don't have time to fulfill their duties or don't have enough money to buy a dress.

Friendships are important. Even more important that having a perfect wedding party.