One of The Telegraph’s sports interns, Eric, recently proposed to his girlfriend of 3½ years, Danielle. Needless to say, I jumped on the chance to get a guy’s perspective about the wedding.

While I can’t pretend that Eric speaks for all men, or really, any man other than himself, he surprised me with how enthusiastic he was about the wedding and the proposal.

“I was really excited,” he told me. And he spent a lot of time planning the proposal, going so far as to call his fiancée’s boss and take the day off for her, booking a Maine “weekend” away in the middle of the week and proposing on the beach.

In talking with Eric, he said a couple of things that I thought was worth keeping in mind:

n Eric proposed “because I love her.”

And chances are that’s why your guy proposed too. When things get stressed, don’t lose sight of why you’re getting married in the first place. If possible, try to plan a date night once every couple of weeks and don’t talk about the wedding.

n “She let out the loudest scream ever.”

It takes a lot of thought to put together a memorable proposal. Eric spent three days trying to think of the perfect way to ask his fiancée to become his bride. I know Ed held on to my engagement necklace (I opted out on the ring) for two weeks, waiting for the perfect moment. Another man I know spent months planning a trip to Las Vegas to surprise his girlfriend with a ring. When you’re thinking about throwing both the lavender and the purple swatches at your guy’s head, remember that chances are he put a lot of time and effort into asking you to be his wife.

n “I feel like I asked her and the next day it’s getting planned.”

Whether you’re having 50 guests or 200, a wedding is overwhelming. You’ve spent a long time dating, then, suddenly, you’re planning a wedding. Your fiancé may not have expected the action to begin quite so soon. If he needs a moment to breathe, let him have it. There are plenty of things you can begin planning, like your own wedding attire, without him.

n  “I think a woman has been waiting (for her wedding) her entire life”

According to Eric, the one thing he wants more than anything is “her being happy.” He believes his fiancée has been thinking about her wedding day since she was a little girl, and he wants her to have exactly what she wants. So if you’re guy seems unwilling to make decisions, believe it or not, he may just be trying to be thoughtful. I finally had to explain to Ed that I hadn’t been dreaming about my wedding day since I was in diapers and knowing that he was getting some of what he wanted makes me happy.

n Details are a “girl’s thing.”

Whether we like it or not, brides are pegged as really caring about what color the napkins are while the grooms could care less. Don’t try to fight it. If you really do care, great, take all those details and go to town because you will very likely have total control over them. If it really doesn’t matter much to you either, it’s not worth stressing over.

n “Just be patient and communicate. Just get what you both want out there.”

Enough said.