So I just get back from my my salon in Hudson and talked to Shelly, the owner and stylist supreme. We talked about the gray thing. Unlike her mom, Penny, who wasn't too keen on my going gray, Shelly is willing to explore the possibilities. And she has a great idea. Instead of putting in lowlights, she's going to take the rest of my hair and put it through a cap and make some pieces as light as possible so they'll blend with the gray. Sounds like a plan, but still freaks me out. I intend to share all the trials and tribs as well as the ghastly photos. According to some of the forums http://www.realself.com/blog/celebrities-gray-hair.htmlI've read out there a lot of the women say it's the other women in their lives that don't want them to go gray. Those who have taken the plunge say men flirt with them more. I find this hard to believe but I did read an article in More magazine in which a 40-something reporter went out with her brown hair and not one guy hit on her, but when she wore a gray wig, all these guys couldn't stay away from her. you have to wonder, are these guys into the mommy thing or do they believe that the widsom that comes with age is somehow hot?

Hi, thanks for the new posts, Bitsy and Kris - what great writers. So here's the thing. I've been coloring my hair since I saw those first stiff and nasty grays when I was 25. So if I do the math - which I don't do - I've spent about $1000 a year - OHMYGOD that's $25,000! I could have had a nice eyelift and microderm for that. So I'm going to try to ditch the dye. My hair is totally gray. Scratch that. My hair is white. Penny, my stylist said it has no color and gray is a color. But the question is, can I live through the unattractive prospect of half gray -half white hair? My ten year old son said he's opposed. Let's face it. If I let the natural hair come through the dirty little secret that his mom is the age of most of his friend's grandmothers will  be readily apparent. I'm about to dive into the internet to see how I can make this transition a little easier. I've already read about women who have done everything from wearing humongo headbands to putting low lights in the gray. I'm hoping for an Emmy Lou Harris thing, but I'm afraid I might end up with a Grandma Moses thing instead. Advice from others of you out there